I had surgery for my hymen in February due to lack of intercourse between me and my husband. After the surgery I had to go back for check ups tonsee how the stitches and everything was healing up, the gynecologist never did anything major just looked. My very last check up she attempted to put a finger in and I just wouldn't let her. I paniced knowing that it was all in my head, I couldn't control it. It doesn't matter if I get myself so relaxed it just didn't happen. Me and my husband finally tried to have sex after everything healed up and it still didn't happen, my legs were tensed the entire time. I know this is all on my head to I've been trying to practice with using tampons and dilators and it doesn't hurt because I'm so afraid of feeling pain, or if I feel like I'm calmed and ready I have a hard time finding the right angle to insert the tampon or the dilator.
I've gone to therapy before and after the surgery, I've read books and done all that needs to be done. I'm trying to not let this get to me but it is. My husband is being so patient with me and I feel bad putting him through this. Can anyone offer any advice?
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I think evrithing is in your head, when did you have a therapy. You have to take anothere therapy by sexual doctor and try it. Good luck. dr.Rohacova
Gynecology and Obstetrics
Your operation was probably a hymenectomy (removal of hymen), or surgical defloration.
As a gynecologist I see a lot of patients with a similar situation, vaginal dilators help sometimes to assure you that you can have insertion and introduction, however I suggest you and your husband seek a psychologist as therapy is important for a while, having an understanding partner is a blessing, and I am sure after a while you will enjoy your marital life
Egypt Urogynecology Clinic - Amr Seif-Eldin, M.D
You have vaginismus , and you should get help from a physchiatrist
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